This next story has been told countless times and has been lived by many parents or caretakers in many places in this world.

My sister said her two oldest granddaughters basked in the daily attention, the love, the caring, the various activities, the new clothes, the toys and miscellaneous gifts which resulted in enrichment with each different experiences as youngsters. But, please do not stop.


As always, dear reader, you know that I am always glad that you ask that question. Because, of course, I have my own answer. Clearly, you see, we forget because we do not think about it or discuss it with our children.

It may be worthwhile information to pass on to our growing children, grandchildren, significant godchildren and other loved ones. It simply is someone else's turn.

Yes, it is their turn because they are the newly born children or the youngest children living at home. We all want to be pampered and I do not mean with a diaper. Yes, I mean to be spoiled a little, with attention that we all yearn as children and adults. Yet, it is unfortunate that there is never enough to go around to get that satisfaction that the Rolling Stones sang about.

"Why is that true?"

It might be a bit of jealousy coming into the picture that is normal. What can we do to wean the growing children of the baton of attention being passed on to the youngest?

I spoke to a few groups of parents and caretakers that included my sister and her friends. They suggested (what they have tried) explaining to their older children that these younger children need the attention because "it is their turn."

They said it was all in the presentation and repetition of that line. Especially toddler and babies need more monitoring because they can get into mischief so quickly and that can mean trouble.

We include climbing on anything taller than the child at any opportunity and running recklessly because of excitement and bumping into furniture or walls. Pulling is also a dangerous activity to watch out for during childcare.

One of the favorite obstacles of conversation in these groups of caretakers has always been the tiny pieces of anything on the floor. Toddlers always seem to locate the smallest items and they go right to the sensory area of the tongue.

Interesting enough to me was their use of music to sooth the souls of these young charges. Music sometimes got the children to dance in harmony with the music.

Some of the children have responded with singing along with the music too. Using music that has other children singing was mentioned as the best attention getter for the children.

The most success in efforts to understand that "it's their turn" was repetition and continued portions of love and caring in words of praise.

This was a learning situation for the older children and they also learned about nurturing their offspring or other younger children.

Joe-Santos Medina is a resident of Robstown. Readers may contact him via email at